Relationship Self-Healing Exercise and Workshop
Hello, I’m Maggie Battista. I’m a storyteller, strategist, ritualist, teacher, and mentor. I also host Cacao ceremonies and teach a Self-Love Path for Soul Emergence.
I designed a Relationship Self-Healing Exercise for us.
It’s about choosing to view the relationships in your life in a very different way, one in which the dynamics of those relationships are not about the other person at all.
They are entirely about you.
And that’s because, everyone in your life is a reflection of you.
I realize that may be a lot to hold but it is how I view the world now. It’s a perspective shift that offers a path to self-awareness and self-healing and so much self-love.
If you’d like to watch this workshop, you may click the button to watch.
This Relationship Self-Healing Exercise allows you to better relate to vital individuals, to hold them with compassion, to self-heal, and to offer the best parts of you to them.
In the exercise, you take a direct, compassionate look at your three most dominate relationships and you choose to ask yourself these seven questions about each relationship:
How do I feel about me around this individual?
What aspect of this relationship most concerns me?
What does this aspect reflect about them? What parts of them need compassion and curiosity?
What is this aspect reflecting about me? What parts of me need compassion, curiosity, and self-healing?
What is the lesson I am learning in this relationship?
If I soothed this wound in me, how would I react next time this challenge surfaces in this relationship?
With this new understanding, how do I feel now?
I’ll give you an example of how this exercise works with a relationship from my life.
Relationship Self-Healing Exercise: Example
There are several people in my life who consistently try to control so much around them. I know they have reasons for this and I have a lot of compassion for them. But when they attempt to control or fix a situation, especially when it involves me, I have a strong reaction, one that I wish to understand. Let’s take this relationship through the exercise.
How do I feel about me in this relationship? I feel loved but there are lots of moments where I feel like an object of their control or judgment.
What aspect of this relationship most concerns me? I have a strong reaction within myself when I see them exhibit controlling or fixing behavior.
What does this aspect reflect about them? What parts of them need compassion and curiosity? They are simply trying to bring a sense of control to an uncontrollable world. They may be doing this because they feel out of control and need the world to make more sense to them in order to feel calm and peaceful. But that is their work, not mine. The part of them that feels out of control needs compassion and curiosity.
What is this aspect reflecting in me? What parts of me need compassion, curiosity, and healing? This aspect forces me to question myself and how I live my life. I feel anxious about my choices. I wonder if something is wrong with me. The part of me that feels uncertain or wrong needs compassion, curiosity, and healing, and that is my work.
What is the lesson I am learning in this relationship? In this relationship, I’m learning many things including how trust myself, how to detach from outcomes and release control, how to release judgment of another, and how to live life from the heart and soul (instead of from the logical mind).
If I soothed this wound in me, how would I react next time this challenge surfaces in this relationship? If I switch into my soul’s voice and allow it to remind me of how much I believe in myself and my choices, then what they say may simply flow through me like water. I would not react to what appears to be a way to control the world around them. I will soothe the part of me who feels tender and I will choose to trust myself.
How do I feel about myself now? I feel like I understand myself better. I know I can navigate the feelings around this aspect of our relationship.
I hope you found this exercise helpful and supportive of your soul’s path and emergence. Thanks for reading. I’ll be back again very, very soon.
Would you like to watch my Relationship Self-Healing Workshop where I discuss this exercise in detail?
